Admit it, we’ve all glanced over at a neighbor’s house in admiration of how well-kept their front-lawn is. For many of us, their grass always seems to be just a little more greener, a bit more smooth-cut, and a tad more carefully decorated with an invisible “I Am Perfect” sign parked right in the middle.
For some of us, this same line of thinking can slowly creep its way into our marriages. We glance at Jane and her husband seemingly living their best lives, posting happy photos on social media, taking vacations, raising perfect children and to us, their marriage seems perfect. The what-ifs and what would haves somehow finds its way into our minds and we’re left wondering what life would be like if we had a different spouse, or even more dangerous, if we had her spouse.
Let me be the first to tell you that NO marriage is perfect. Not one. Not mine, not yours, none. How can I make such a bold statement? Well, a marriage is made up of 2 people. 2 imperfect people. What does the Bible say about us? “As it is written: “None is righteous, no, not one;” Romans 3:10; “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” Romans 3:23; “If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us.”1 John 1:8” Now this is not to downplay who were are or to make you feel less than. Absolutely not! It’s a reminder that we are not perfect people. You are not perfect and your husband is not perfect.
We all do things that are hurtful, mean, and really just not cool at times. We’re all growing day by day, our taste in food or clothes changes, we start to become more or less interested in certain sports or activities. It’s all a part of this journey we call life. But what we should always strive to do, is make our marriages the best it could be every single day. We made a vow to be with our husbands for life. (That’s a long time!) Spend the lifetime watering your own garden – making your marriage the happiest, safest place it can be. Speak positive words over your husband and your family instead of negative ones. Instead of focusing on the bad, talk about the good things that you love. Thank your husband for the things that he does really well and pray about the things that he doesn’t. Look yourself in the mirror and encourage yourself to be the best wife that you can be and that he will follow suit.
Speak life over your marriage everyday and watch your grass sparkle, shine and grow stronger than you can ever imagine!